cBeing a good parent is of course what every parent would like to be.（当然，成为一个好的父母是每一个父母都想做到的。）But defining what it means to be a good parent is undoubtedly very tricky, particularly since children respond differently to the same style of parenting.（但是定义什么才是好父母无疑是非常棘手的，尤其是孩子对一样的养育方式的反应是不一样的。）A calm, rule-following child might respond better to a different sort of parenting than, for example, a younger sibling.（例如，一个冷静的，遵守规矩的孩子比起他的弟弟妹妹可能对于不同的抚养方式反馈的更好一些。）
Fortunately, there’s another sort of parent that’s a bit easier to describe: a patient parent.（幸运的是，有另外一种挺容易描述的父母：耐心的父母。）Children of every age benefit from patient parenting.（每一个年龄段的孩子都受益于耐心抚养。）Still, while every parent would like to be patient, this is no easy task.（虽然每一位家长都希望有耐心，这一直都不是容易的事情。）Sometimes parents get exhausted and frustrated and unable to maintain a tolerant and composed style with their kids.（有时父母会觉得精疲力尽和沮丧而不能够保持一个容忍和冷静的态度来对待他们的孩子。）I understand this.（我们都明白的。）
You’re only human, and sometimes your kids can push you just a little too far.（你们只是普通人，有时候孩子们做的有点太过了。）And then the illogical happens: You lose your patience and either scream at your kids or say something that was a bit too harsh and does nobody any good.（这时不符合逻辑的事情发生了：你失去了耐心，要么对你的孩子大喊大叫，要么说一些太刺耳的话，做对任何人都没有好处的事情。）You wish that you could turn back the clock and
start over.（你希望你能拨回时钟重新开始。）We’ve all been there.（我们曾经都经历过。）
Overall, even though it’s common, it’s important to keep in mind that in a single moment of fatigue, you can say something to your child that you may regret for a long time.（总的来说，尽管这很普通，要牢牢记住在疲倦的那一刻你对孩子说的话可能会让你后悔很长一段时间。）This may not only do damage to your relationship with your child but also affect your child’s self-esteem.（这可能不仅仅会损坏你和孩子的关系，可能还会影响你孩子的自尊。）
If you consistently lose your cool with your kids, then you are inadvertently modeling a lack of emotional control for your kids.（如果你面对孩子总是失去冷静，那么你正在把你的孩子塑造成缺乏情绪控制的人。）We are all becoming increasingly aware of the importance of modeling tolerance and patience for the younger generation, this is a skill that will help them all throughout life.（我们都越来越意识到塑造年轻一代的宽容和耐心的重要性，这是一项技术将有益他们一生。）In fact, the ability to emotionally regulate or maintain emotional control when confronted by stress is one of the most important of all life’s skills.（事实上，当面对压力的时候有能力进行调节情绪或者保留情绪控制的能力是一生中最重要的技能之一。）
Certainly, it’s incredibly hard to maintain patience at all times with your children.（当然，始终对孩子们保持内心是极其困难的。）A more practical goal is to try to the best of your ability, to be as tolerant and composed as you can when faced with changing situations involving your children.（一个更加实际的目标是尽最大的能力去保持宽容和镇静——当你面对包括你孩子在内的不断变化的形势时。）I can promise you this: As a result of working toward the goal, you and your children will benefit and emerge from stressful moments feeling better physically and emotionally.（我能向你承诺的是：朝着这个目标努力的结果是你和你的孩子将会受益，在压力出现的时刻将会有更好的生理和情感的状态。）
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